Oh, Baby!

It was a crazy summer to say the least with moving to MN!!  Not to mention, for 6 weeks, I drove back and forth every weekend to Green Bay since I had to continue with my old practice until the end of September.  When I was finally able to join my family, we were excited for life to settle down a bit.  Sure, starting a new job was going to be stressful, but it was going to be a welcome change!

At the end of October, I was feeling extremely "off".  I was exhausted, had little appetite, and was getting light headed.  I attributed it to starting a new job but when it persisted, I started to think something else was going on.  Was I having thyroid issues?  Mono? Autoimmune issues?  I was about to schedule an appointment with an MD and decided to take a pregnancy test to rule out one etiology...boy was I surprised!  After losing 4 babies to miscarriages and needing fertility meds to get pregnant in past, pregnancy was at the bottom of the list!  We were not trying and utilizing NFP for birth control.  I feel bad that my initial reaction was not good.  There were four letter words involved.  The timing couldn't be worse (I had just started with my new practice about three weeks prior to this, we sold/donated all baby items when we moved, my age made it 1:70 chance of having a baby with a chromosomal abnormality).  So, I prayed.  I prayed hard.  I prayed that I could trust God's plan and timing.  Then, I had an epiphany.  If Mary could say yes under much more difficult circumstances, I could at least say "Yes" and accept this blessing.
         First trimester was tough.  I was nauseous much earlier than with the other pregnancies and the level of exhaustion, well, just say I was on autopilot for those 12 weeks.  And, because of my miscarriage history I was having serial lab draws to see how my body was supporting the pregnancy.  My serial HCGs were not doubling every 48-72 hours like they should have.  In fact, after two weeks of blood draws every 3-4 days, we were told I was miscarrying.    My HCG levels were still going up but it hadn't doubled in over a week.  Then, they scheduled me for an ultrasound to measure the size of the fetus.  With all of my other ultrasounds, I was so anxious going in.  But, with this one, I told Aaron that I would be fine either way.   The ultrasound showed a strong heart beat and a fetus measuring just where it should for 8 weeks.

And, the ultrasounds at 10 weeks and 12 weeks showed the baby was developing right on track.  This baby defied the odds.  It was fun telling the kids and they were super excited!

       Given my age and risk of chromosomal abnormalities, I took advantage of a screening test at 12 weeks where they drew my blood and were able to extract the baby's DNA.  It was then we found out that it was negative for the three most common chromosomal abnormalities and that we were having a BOY!!

     I was very stressed and anxious about telling my partners that I was pregnant.  But, I again trusted in God's plan.   My partners took the news very well...better than I did when I found out.  And, they have been very supportive.  My staff have all been very supportive as well and very excited about the new addition to the OMSA family!

    I have had to have several ultrasounds to monitor an abnormality with the baby's left kidney.  Fortunately, the abnormality is very minor and he will have to have a kidney ultrasound after birth.  The specialist felt that the risk of him requiring surgery is very low.  Praise the Lord!

We are so excited to meet this little guy.  The kids have been so funny  with the pregnancy and asking a TON of questions!  How does the baby eat in my belly?  How does the baby come out?  They have also been so helpful in getting his nursery set up, clothes washed/folded, hospital bag packed (Elsa took charge of that and I still haven't looked at what is in side!)

Pregnancy photos

 21 Weeks

34 weeks 

And, here I sit, the day prior to induction.  This pregnancy has been SO different than my other two. I have had LOTS of contractions for the past 4 weeks.  Even my OB is amazed I am still pregnant.  I spent 12 hours in L&D two weeks ago with contractions every 3 minutes.  But, I stayed 2 cm dilated and, since I wasn't quite 38 weeks, they didn't want to break my water or induce me.  I was advised at that point to rest (I was supposed to work one more week) until delivery and resting slowed the contractions.    I still have had lots of contractions, but nothing consistent.  They want to induce me because 1) I have a history of having large babies (Chet was 10 lbs 2 oz) and 2) there is documented research that the placenta doesn't maintain itself as well in women over 40 years old past 39 weeks.  

It is so funny because he is not even here yet and the kids are talking about having another baby!  I explained that if there was another one, we couldn't take a vacation in at least 5 years.  They were then content with this being the last addition to our family!  

Happy 9th Birthday Elsa!!

It is true what they say.."the days are long, but the years are short."
In a blink of an eye, she went from this....

to this!

This past year has been full of lots of changes with our move to MN, starting a new school, announcement of new baby...but I am in awe of her resilience and how she has handled all of the stress of change.   I am so excited to see what this next year will bring!  She has such a compassionate heart that shows in her infectious smile.

I had an EPIC parent fail and didn't take a single picture of her birthday party at the waterpark.  Opps!

We celebrated her birthday with 12 of her friends at the Paul Bunyan Waterpark a week prior to her birthday (due to Memorial Day).  She had a blast.  It was fun to meet a lot of her friends from school and dance.

Then, I had to work at a satellite office on her actual birthday, so we celebrated with breakfast in bed on Memorial Day.

She had been asking nonstop for a phone (she even wrote a persuasive essay in school on why we should allow her to have one).  Aaron and I were not quite ready to move into that next step, so we discovered the Gizmo from Verizon.  It allows us to establish 10 contacts/caretakers who can send her text messages and send/receive phone calls from.    She has demonstrated a lot of responsibility with it and as our life gets more hectic with the new addition, it has proven to be very beneficial in communicating with her!  Here she is showing off her new watch!

Favorite Color:  Purple

Favorite toy:  American Girl Dolls and Calico critters

Favorite TV show:  American Ninja Warrior, Wheel of Fortune

Favorite Movie:  Indiana Jones and The Greatest Showman

Favorite food:  Sushi, St. Norbert College Food

Favorite Game:  Candyland

Favorite Animal: Dogs, Owls

Favorite book: Any kind of book

Favorite activity: dance, golf, boating, kayaking

What do you like to do in your free time: spend time with my family, play Minecraft

What is your least favorite thing to do: Clearing the shoreline at our house on the lake

What to you want to be when you grow up:  religious teacher

Life is short

It is true what they say...."Life is short," "It can change in a blink of an eye."  Even though I like to believe that we try to appreciate all of our blessings and never take life for granted, sometimes the routine of life takes over and God gives us a wake up call.  We were given that wake up call in July 2016.  Aaron's mom was enjoying a weekend at a cabin with Aaron's brother's, Corey, family.  We were enjoying a weekend at our cabin with our niece, Jessica, and friends, The Johnsons.  Aaron's sister (Taunya) and her husband were enjoying their new boat out on a lake with their friends.  I distinctly remember putting a puzzle together with Jessica that Sunday and catching up on life, when she received a phone call from her dad.  Life hasn't been the same since.  Taunya was enjoying a glass of wine on the lake with her friend and she got back into the boat and mentioned she had a terrible head ache.  This was followed by unconsciousness.  She was rushed to the hospital where she was diagnosed with an cerebral aneurysm.  My heart just sank for Jessica as she talked to her dad.  Aaron immediately drove with Jessica to Minneapolis.  I packed up the cabin and kids and followed.   Taunya was transferred to Hennepin County Medical Center.  We had picked up Aaron at the hospital and went to a hotel nearby.  Aaron's mom had called the next morning saying he needed to be at the hospital as the prognosis was looking extremely grim.  My mom came up to Minneapolis to pick up the kids and I said good bye to the kids for an indefinite time period.   I knew that Aaron was going to stay in Minneapolis for at least the next couple of weeks, but I would need to return to work.  I am so appreciative of my mom and sisters helping out with the kids and going to target to buy pull-ups, clothes, personal items, etc.   Since I didn't want to interfere with the time Aaron and his family were spending with Taunya, I went to the Basilica of St. Mary, where we got married.  If you have never sat in a Church completely by yourself (ok, minus the janitor), I would recommend it.  God spoke to me in a way I have never experienced before.  After I finished praying the rosary, I was on my knees in prayer and I looked up at the huge altar and felt such peace.  It felt like all of the Saints, Mary, and Jesus (there are a lot of statues on the Altar at the Basilica), reached down to me and enveloped me in an embrace.  I appreciated that all of the stuff we worry about on a daily basis, doesn't matter.   People (and us included) drive ourselves ragged worrying about work, what kind of a car/house/clothes we have, what people think of us, how thin/fat we are, what activities our kids are in and whether or not this will allow them to "excel" in life, what other people are doing (hello, social media), what club/organizations we are involved in....It. Doesn't. Matter.
         Taunya spent approximately 6 weeks in ICU and then 6 months at an inpatient Neuro rehab center.  She is able to live at home but requires 24/7 care as she has blindness in her left eye and limited movement in her left body.  But she is a fighter and each day (even 18 months later) she continues to make progress and inspires us all with her tenacity and strength.

 The kids loved visiting Taunya!  They were very entertained by her remote controlled bed!

         Last year at this time we started to realize that the frequent trips back to MN from our home in Green Bay would not be sustainable as our two children were involved in activities on the weekend.  Add that to the fact that I was no longer professionally or personally happy at my practice, we decided to look for a practice opportunity in MN where we could be closer to family.  I was fortunate to find a practice in northern MN that put us 2 hours away from Aaron's family (much better than 5 1/2 hours!).
       We put our house up for sale in May as we were told the average time frame for our home price point to sell was 6 months...well, it sold in two days.  We moved into a furnished apartment for the summer and Aaron and the kids moved into our home at the end of August so they could start school.  I had to stay at my practice until the end of September so I spent every weekend traveling back and forth to MN.  Aaron took excellent care of the kids and they have been adjusting very well.  We love their new school and the progress Chet has been making is mind blowing!  We do miss all of our friends from Green Bay and we look forward to frequent visits!

Happy 6th Birthday Chet!!!

My sweet little boy turned 6!!  I had fun remeniscing about his birth day and he loved hearing about it!  I told him how he came into this world Torpedo style (the Pitocin worked a little too well).  He commented "Yeah, because I was bored in there!  I wanted to get out fast!"  The kid cracks me up with his sense of humor!

A couple of months before his birthday, I had asked him where he wanted to have his party and he said he just wanted to have his friends over to play!  I am so grateful for the friends he has started to make and it is fun to hear their moms comment how their kids talk about Chet all of the time.  I really feel that he is adjusting well and he has a great group of friends!  

Our family tradition is breakfast in bed, so he picked out that he wanted cinnamon rolls.  We entered his room singing Happy Birthday and he had fun enjoying his breakfast and opening presents!  At school he celebrated with ice cream treats!  

Since his birthday fell on a Wednesday, he had his party on Saturday!  He had 5 of his friends from school over and his cousins Evi and Bode joined in on the fun!  He decided on a Ninjago theme and we even had a Ninja piñata (he pronounces it piata).  

In the past, I always went crazy trying to plan fun games and such, but it was so fun just letting the kids run around and play!  Yes, it was more work cleaning up but I was so happy Chet had a great day!  It made it worth it!

Favorite food:  Sushi, ice cream, oranges

Favorite Color: red and orange

Favorite TV show:  Ninjago

Favorite book:  anything Star Wars

Favorite sport:  Hockey

Favorite athlete:  Aaron Rodgers and Clay Matthews

Favorite thing to do outside:  play soccer

What he wants to be when he grows up:  police officer

He still does not like bugs or messes (gooey or messy foods).  He likes order when eating and can't have his food touch each other!

He is such an endearing little man and, although he didn't like to cuddle when he was an infant, he loves cuddling with this momma!  We love him to pieces!